Comments on: Non-Monogamy and Loving One Who Loves Only One

By: Blu

Blu — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 23:30:28 +0000

Been lurking here for quite a while and enjoying seeing your new found happiness. I wonder if you still label yourself as polyamorous after finding GentleSpirit? I realize this is an old post, I just stumbled across it today looking through your archives. I can understand having feelings for and love for more than one person certainly, but it has always seemed to me that once you find that “right” person, the one that fulfills you more than ever before, it’s pretty hard to maintain polyamorous relationships. Love your written words by the way — intelligent, witty and very much understood. Wish there were more like you out there.

By: gg

gg — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 21:02:06 +0000

It seems that your transformation is pretty well complete — i’d say that’s the better of the battle.
Personally, mine continues, but i look forward to the day i have it well in hand. No mystery there — i am an average woman with well-above average desires and needs but, i too, am learning and finding my way through the dark, as we all must, when it comes to this lovestyle, it seems. ~sigh~
And, yes, i better understand the men i am drawn to, through your revelations here — therefore, i thank you for baring your heart and soul.
D — All the best to ‘you and your family.’

By: Shidonae

Shidonae — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 08:54:47 +0000

“Almost a man”?

NO! Always a man, in all ways a man.

Warm, vibrant, strong, passionate, intelligent, humorous, kind, loving and wonderfully sadistic.

By: Dreamwalker

Dreamwalker — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 00:42:22 +0000

Regular visitor? Somebody I don’t know actually reads what I write? Goodness gracious. Thank you, dear gg, for leaving such a wonderful and affirming and validating comment. You warm my heart with your acceptance and it sounds like you speak from a place where you have made similar realizations. An interesting side-effect from coming out as what I am, from mustering up the strength of honesty to even admit to myself what was looking back at me in the mirror, not to mention admitting it to others, was that I lost the urge to lie and hide in all aspects in my life. I have gained so much in my life just from telling the truth. It never dawned on me that it would be a good thing; admitting to what I was, was just an act of survival. I was convinced that I would be a pariah because I am not a yummy, stern, all-knowing dominant; I am something else. With the emphasis on thing. Even though some may look funny at me, being completely honest about what I am and what I feel and need has been the best decision of my life. I had trouble making emotional connections before and it must have been the mask that I was wearing that shielded me from others. Now I am bare and open and vulnerable and the most magnificent human beings reach out their hands to me in friendship and love. I’m still wrapping my brain around it. I still keep thinking, “Are you sure you are talking to the right person?” I am nothing special; in fact, Radiohead’s Creep is still very much my personal anthem. It just does not compute that a woman, any woman, could be interested in me without a mask to moderate her perception of me. Yet, the warmest, the most vibrant, the most electric, the most intelligent and nurturing women I have ever met, I met after finally being honest about my feelings. It is a lesson that hit home and that I will never let go of. For better or worse, this is what I am. And it appears to be for the better. And my mind is still reeling; a mysterious, probably beautiful, stranger regularly reads my writing. That is positively titillating…

By: gg

gg — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 22:06:15 +0000

D — i am a regular visitor here, and have deeply appreciated many of your writings, but i pushed myself to leave a comment here today, and it is because of your integrity and brutal honesty — not only with yourself, but those you have welcomed into your life. i admire that a great deal. As hard as these realizations can be, they are so very freeing and really the only way any relation can succeed is by that self-acknowledgement and depth of truth. There are no questions — everyone knows where they stand. i applaud you for taking this step to your core. That takes heart.