Q: What Do Dom­i­nants Get Out of It?

A: It is all about surrender.

Look beyond the mechan­ics, look past the logis­tics, look behind the cur­tain; for most of us, what we do is about more than phys­i­cal plea­sure, about more than endor­phins, and adren­a­line, and testos­terone, and oxytocin.

It is about con­nect­ing with another human being in ways that are almost impos­si­ble to find else­where. It is about con­nect­ing with your­self. It is about truth and beauty. It is about trust, it is about inti­macy, it is about sur­ren­der­ing to each other and ourselves.

What do I get? I get a warm, vibrant, elec­tric woman plac­ing her­self, her body and her mind, in my hands. Like a pool of still calm water, her skin rip­ples in waves with my touch. Her respon­sive­ness guid­ing me, her reac­tions nar­rates the jour­ney I guide her through.

What do I get? I get a shin­ing, radi­ant being, every bit as for­mi­da­ble as I am, to dance with, to cre­ate with, to jour­ney with. Not my oppo­site but my per­fect com­ple­ment. Where I am hard, she is soft; where I push, she yields, where I am lost in my head, she is lost in her body.

What do I get? I get a pant­ing, inco­her­ent, wild-​eyed female mewl­ing like a cat in heat. An ele­men­tal female so deeply in her womb of need that only one thing exists for her: me, the male hov­er­ing over her. A female ani­mal with only one thought in her foggy mind; to be used, to be taken, to be mounted.

And at that moment, when I mount her, when her body parts for me, when I sink into her to join her in the pri­mal fog, I get the one thing I need the most.

I get to be me.