If I take too long getting, you know, there, chances are that I’m really enjoying myself and not that I’m bored. Some guys think about taxes or other boring things to prolong their experience. That doesn’t work for me. For me, desensitization works best, as in taking it slower in the beginning until I have adjusted to the pleasure and then ratching it up.
However, you can get too much of a good thing too. If I like it too much, if I desensitize for too long, I will not come even when I decide to do so. That can be fun all by itself, because then I can really go to town.
When I get desensitized to the point that I can’t come even when trying, I normally just enjoy the current state and make the best use of it I can. And I’ll usually come like a torrent the next time I try.
The next time is not so much about actual time as it is “resetting” me mentally. It can be as simple as allowing the erection to recede and to kiss and be snuggly, to let me play with some nice breasts because they are a good way to make me feel warm and fuzzy inside, and when the erection is back, I’m good to go for the finish line.
Another funny thing; when I am a bit numb from too much sensation and I’m trying to come, speeding up or adding even more sensation will not work for me, but slowing down will. If I slow down and start paying attention to how good the lady feels around me rather than how good I feel inside her, I’ll also get all warm and fuzzy and that, in turn, will get me there most of the time.
There are times I just don’t feel like coming, so I just won’t try; I simply go on until she has had enough and is beginning to get sore, and then I stop. The next time, I will get off like a fire hose, believe me.

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As long your hose works and those you love to use it with are happy that really should matter. Tardy or not tardy, just as long you got supper with wide variety of options and choices that pretty good start. These days personally my cupboard is pretty empty in that area, I don’t purr and my hose is needing some type of upgrade.